Peace, nor joy come to those who search for them. They come to us as we live the life Jesus called us to - in harmony with others. Many things tempt us to lose our joy and peace. Call them what you want; obstacles, trials, problems, angry people.
The problems we have are nothing compared to how big and good our God is. I’m not saying that God is going to make everything in your life go the way you want it to. We live in a broken world where bad things happen to good people, but we can invite him to change our perspective so we learn to trust him no matter what the outcome. God is big enough to handle everything. He is not thrown off by our problems.
Living like this is not natural. It takes training.
Philippians 4:9 (NLT)
9 Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.
Practice these things. Practice trusting God by being gentle, humble, and reasonable towards those you disagree with. We are not the main characters in the story of life with everyone else, including God, playing supporting parts. Whatever you are going through bring if first to God in prayer, look for his answers, and then thank him. Don’t focus on your problems and think that you can’t have peace and joy until all your problems are removed. God has bigger purposes for us than our comfort.
That doesn’t mean you won’t have to take some action. It means you leave the outcome to him on matters that are out of your control and you don’t try to manipulate events in your favour when others will be hurt by the outcome. Trust God. Give everything to him in prayer and he promises to give you peace that is beyond anything you can understand.